Tolerations are things we put up with. We tolerate other people, situations, environments, bad habits, our health, restrictions, indulgence, stress, the list goes on and on. These things drag you down and clutter your mind. They take up energy and devour your personal bandwidth. Tolerations suck!
Labeling something as a “toleration” helps us identify it, and separate it from ourselves. Kind of like baggage we carry… instead of carrying it, we’re able to mentally put it on a shelf and look at it objectively. My car is dirty because I don’t make time for the car wash. My desk is messy because I throw mail and paperwork on it. The neighbors dog poos in my yard because I haven’t brought it to their attention yet.
Tolerations take a toll
We often overlook or disregard the cost of tolerations. Emotional tolls can be feeling agitated, annoyed, hurt, and result in loss of energy. Feelings like these easily distract us from being open to opportunities we desire. “I was so annoyed with the dog poo between my toes, I didn’t hear the phone ring.”
Addressing a toleration will renew your energy because you fall back into alignment with yourself.
Grab a piece of paper and list all of the things you’re putting up with. Carry the list around with you. Visit all the different environments in your world: office, home, car, relationships, personal, financial… notice what you are putting up with in each area. Write down everything you notice.
- Do it! Take immediate action.
- Delegate it! Give it to someone else to do.
- Defer it! Put it on the back burner until you have time or resources to deal with it.
- Dump it! Be done with it – it doesn’t matter anymore.
Do you feel positive energy flowing already? I do this exercise annually when planning for the new year. Eliminating junk on a regular basis feels empowering, and ensures I always have maximum capacity to deal with life.
“Be master of your petty annoyances and conserve your energies for the big, worthwhile things. It isn’t the mountain ahead that wears you out – it’s the grain of sand in your shoe.” – Robert Service