Conscious Living: My Loving Awareness

Conscious Living: My Loving Awareness

When asked about conscious living, my thoughts were all over the place.  I have actually delayed writing this because I couldn’t figure out how to put it in words.  Here are my thoughts in simplest terms.

I believe conscious living means “being aware of what happens when we live our lives from loving awareness.”

When I was a little girl both my parents had the attitude of, “you get up, and live the day by the attitude YOU choose.” My dad would wake us whistling like a bird; mom would play Carol King records.  My parents intentionally chose to openly share their happiness, which of course, has rubbed off on me 🙂  I am so grateful.

Each day, we also decide which of our gifts we will share with the world.  I take pride in my ability to turn someone’s day around.  The grouchy sales clerk, rude waitress, angry driver or the frustrated client. We don’t know their journey or their worries… maybe they chose to be grumpy when they woke up.  I try to make them happy and muster a smile, even if for only a moment.  At the very least, I offer kindness. Everyone deserves kindness.  Kindness can make such a huge difference! I believe this makes the world a much better place to live.  Don’t you?

My life, like everyone else’s, has had its fair amount of challenges. The most challenging has been a child with addiction. Without a doubt, this has been an extreme example of loving awareness, my love for my child. I find myself talking about this experience more often than some may wish, but I believe it’s a large part of my core and who I am, and how I choose to live each day.

My loving awareness.

Believe me, there are days I wake up and would rather stay in bed—but I make a choice—I will not be a victim… I will be an advocate! I firmly believe this is part of my life’s journey.

I know my reaction to things in my life including my sons addiction are all part of who I am and what I’ve experienced, including positive loving caring parents, my marriage, friendships, business relationships, coworkers, and community engagement.

Conscious living is experiencing our joy, love and our purpose in this world and the gifts we have to offer, we live by conscious choice not chance.

Conscious living

Conscious living

While the phrase “conscious living” can lead to a complex discussion of everything from carbon footprints to how my abdomen feels when I breathe, I prefer to keep things simple. To be clear, I do not claim to be a sage or scholar, or even an accomplished “conscious liver,”  but to me, “conscious living can be reduced to the daily work  of making incremental self-improvements, despite the many forces working against us.”

The necessary and difficult first step is to find or create a bit of time each day to slow down long enough to simply observe how we are reacting to the flood of incoming stimuli. This could be anything from how we react to a comment from a friend or partner, or how we make food choices at a buffet table. These reactions are often habitual and don’t always lead to living better.

Rather than becoming overwhelmed by trying to tackle all of them at once, search for one thing to change that can impact other things further downstream.

For example, dieters who weigh themselves every morning lose more weight than those who do not. That simple morning routine can subtly influence whether we choose the marinara or the Alfredo at dinner.

The same is true for food journaling. The simple act of writing down a list of everything eaten in a day, even just one day a week, will set up better food decisions throughout the day, and result in progressive weight loss.

So find yourself some quiet time, pay attention to what motivates you to act, then choose a new response. Decide each day to do that thing until it becomes a new habit. If that makes life better in some incremental way, keep it and move on to the next thing. If not, let it go and try something else.

Living the good life happens when we are in control of our responses and actions. Conscious living is the means to that end.