Ok, so I’ve never written a blog post before. My first reaction is to behave as if I am publishing all of the world’s research on intention from the beginning of time. Of course, the achiever in me wants an A++! I determined that before I began I should formally define “blog”, identify its structure, learn tips on how to write a successful post, and read every blog ever written. Whew! But, I refrained. If this is for MY community, it needs to come from my thoughts, my experiences, and my heart. These are things I have discovered through my own journey of healing and personal growth. I collectively credit all of my mentors near and far.
In the Beginning
It started several years ago when the experience of my second marriage had turned me into someone who was not…ME! My daily monologue was, “I am not this person.” I was in complete despair. I was physically ill and in so much emotional pain that I was sure I was going to die. I was in crisis. Survival mode kicked in and I realized the only way to survive was to “do my work.” I began studying, journaling, crying, praying, studying, journaling, and crying. I spent months filling notebooks with things I wanted, steps that needed to be taken, the ways I wanted my next decisions to improve my situation and the well-being of my family members. I was setting intentions for my LIFE! I want…I need…I will…I must…I can no longer accept…I must let go of…the vision I have for myself is… how I want to feel is…who I want to be is…how I show up for my kids and my team will be… This process ultimately helped me get unstuck and back to my normal.
So, I’ve been out of crisis mode for quite some time now and I have come to know that intention is a true gift. I no longer set my intentions out of desperation. It is an ongoing practice that guides me and moves me forward to where I want to be. The beauty is that we can set intentions for whatever we want no matter where we are in our lives: Intention for growth, abundance, healing, personal development, nurturing relationships, creating moments rather than going through the motions, for understanding, for how you want to show up today, or who you want to be in the world.
Between my upbringing and our culture, I used to be “goal” driven. Go go go, get get get, push push push, more- better- best! Understanding what “intention” means has allowed me to shift my perspective on achievement – moving me from a “self” mentality to “serve” mentality. “Goals,” as I understood them before the mindfulness movement, are often sought outwardly, creating a sense of pressure within us and disappointment or punishment if we fail to reach them. For me, intention equals freedom – a knowing as opposed to uncertainty. I literally feel my physiology change when I say each word in my mind. When focusing on intention I feel a huge expansion bringing me to center. It feels vast and limitless. It helps me reconnect with that which is bigger than myself. It gives me confidence knowing “I’ve got this.” It helps me focus less on expectation and how others perceive me. It has changed how I view myself, the world, humanity and beyond. I feel a little, girlish giggle on the inside knowing it’s all mine. Like I have a secret no one knows. I can have it right now, in any way I want to…to nurture it, hold it, and appreciate it. It is faith instead of worry. Unlike a goal we set outside of ourselves, there is peace in intention.
True intention will come from the body not what you force out with your thinking mind. Stop, close your eyes, take a breath, and feel what comes up. Write down what comes to you. This could be tiny clues that will keep emerging that will guide you later or huge “aha moments.”
Set your intention, let it go, and trust that the universe will listen. Revisit your notes periodically as a reminder of where you want to go and who you want to become. I like to do a Sunday review. For me, it is a good day for reflection and renewal. I have used pop up reminders on my phone with power words or phrases during particularly difficult times.
Find what works for you. Be open. Put it out there, stay focused, be consistent, hold it in your heart, and be prepared to receive your gifts in unexpected ways.
I am a current Psychology student at NC State College and online student of Brendon Burchard learning self-mastery and high performance. I am a 28 year resident of Galion, Ohio. I have worked in the staffing industry for 13 years. I have 2 children, 2 grandchildren, and 2 pets. My passions are Neuroscience, Positive Psychology, and Human Behavior.